Hi, how are you?

I haven’t written for a while, have I? I feel like I say this every few months. I do actually like to blog so it does feel a little strange when I haven’t written something for a while. Maybe it’s cause I have been busy which I indeed am. Maybe I haven’t been inspired. Funny little thing. Inspiration. How does one get inspired? Quite a conundrum, that one.

What has been going on lately? So, I told a few people about this blog of mine, one of them including a priest (Hi Father Peter, if you’re reading this, hi). He was a little amazed that I had a blog. I do wonder why is that. He said it’s good to share your ideas and thoughts with others. In that way, it helps you grow. I do find that a little funny not because it’s absurd but realize how true it was. This blog of mine has made me a more contemplative person because as I find more ideas to write about, I had to think about the things I go through day to day including events from the past. As much as this blog has given some readers some sense of closure and hope, it has given myself the much needed foundation to see where am I as a person.

Considering all that I really go through the past few weeks is just the usual and nothing out of the ordinary (Yes, I haven’t had a girlfriend. Yes, I am that dull, Ask me again and I will punch you. Indeed, I am that violent), let’s talk about this couple, shall we? Honestly, I haven’t thought much about this. Let’s see where this goes.

Do you know this little twin duo called Jayesslee who covered Officially Missing You by Tamia a few years back and got really famous? One of the twins is called Sonia. Three years ago, she married this photographer/vidoegrapher called Andy and they started this video channel on YouTube describing their married life. For some reason, I really like watching their videos. It’s not like I can relate to their married life or anything but there was an enigma about their videos and then came along their baby, Jordan.

So, they actually started doing vlogs so that their child can watch them when he’s all grown up and matured. Surprise, surprise, I enjoy watching their vlogs too. It’s nothing exciting really. It’s a video of their baby walking around and doing funny things. I find that entertaining. Whatever. Without realizing, I had watched 26 episodes of their vlogs. That’s 260 minutes. Then, they dropped this video a couple of days ago.

It turns out that they have been trying to have another child for a while now. After nine months, they finally were pregnant! Unfortunately and sadly after 9 weeks, Sonia had a miscarriage. Just the roller coaster of emotions they went through, I think you would emphatize with them. I may not have known this couple personally but my heart died a little inside when I heard about it. People will say, “look, miscarriage is not uncommon, one in four pregnant woman in Australia will suffer it”. You say that. Therein lies the problem with our society.

We live in an age where same-sex marriage, abortion and euthanasia takes precedence on the debate platform. We also live in one whereby the divorces, marriages and hook-ups between celebrities becomes headlines in news. Donald Trump running for presidency is now a punchline in late night talk shows and media coverage alike. Julian Assange and Edward Snowden will be given the most coverage in news if there are any updates on them. I’m not saying that all those things are not important (certainly, the first and the latter should be given attention). They indeed are but at the same time, the society needs to give more attention and raise awareness of issues such as the social and economic situation of the refugees, cases of depression and cases such as miscarriages and how we can best offer our support to women everywhere. There are so much more than I can list here.

Mark Zuckerberg was able to bring this up and mentioned about this issue. He and his wife had three miscarriages prior to this.

You feel so hopeful when you learn you’re going to have a child. You start imagining who they’ll become and dreaming of hopes for their future. You start making plans, and then they’re gone. It’s a lonely experience. Most people don’t discuss miscarriages because you worry your problems will distance you or reflect upon you — as if you’re defective or did something to cause this. So you struggle on your own.

As a society, we need to be more engaging and more sensitive of the predicaments of others. People have to realize that having a child is such a blessing and a gift. When it is taken away, there is no easy way to handle it. There is no effective way. There is only the passing time. Just imagine if you are going to be a parent, you have these dreams,

He is going to walk. She is going to jump. He is going to laugh. She is going to cry. He is going to be a doctor. She is going to be an actress in the theatre.

You start envisioning all possibilities and dreams and one day, you found out you lost him/her. How would you feel? Would you be able to handle it alone? I just feel we need to be more understanding of these things and try to do our best as individuals or as a society. Even if you don’t relate to these issues, be aware that they do exist. There’s never any harm in that.

I am guilty of this too. Certainly, if it wasn’t for my sister or Andy and Sonia’s video, I wouldn’t have given much thought about this and realize what an important issue this is. Perhaps in the future, I will write more about various issues. This blog is helping me to see where am I as a person. It’s time to see where am I in the society we live in. I’ll end with this with a quote from the Facebook creator himself.

In today’s open and connected world, discussing these issues doesn’t distance us; it brings us together. It creates understanding and tolerance, and it gives us hope.